When you’re particularly stressed out about life, or like me you have depression or a related mental illness, you’ll likely be told to ‘live in the present’, or ‘live for the now’.However, quite simply, that’s bullshit.
While it doesn’t help to worry about the future or think repeatedly about the past, it is normal, and in many ways useful. Financial planning, life goals, and visualising positive scenarios and success is incredibly useful for your mental well being, as is reflecting on your past to find the root of your problems and learn from your mistakes. Not only that, but these are usually things you do with a therapist, who among other things will tell you to take a step back and live in the present.
Maybe it’s just me thinking too much about it, which would be kinda ironic. But just in case it’s not, here’s an alternative you might like to follow.
Live for your future. Dream big, but live realistically.
This includes learning when you’re too stressed and need to step back. This includes dreaming and working towards buying that Pagani Zonda, but realising that you don’t quite have the money right now and a Ford Mondeo would actually suit your needs. If you believe in planning for the future, then plan, but realise when it becomes self destructive and learn how to circumnavigate that.
And as for the past, it’s just a series of reminders where you went right and wrong. But you can’t relive it.
What do you think? Good advice, or nonsense? Let me know!